My response to: “Career Curveballs : When Brains Only Get You So Far”

This article may be controversial to some of you, especially depending on your work field. I work in a field which I consider to have more of a laid back work attire. I see a number of those in the field freely and comfortably wear sandals to work! This is awesome. Everyone feels free to express themselves to a certain extent (without overdoing it) — I personally think this is awesome.

imagesIn reading this article, the author cites how in her personal experience, she basically did not get the job she thought she’d get as a result of her dress code. This may or may not have been the case. It is important to establish and nourish relationships with people across multiple fields and disciplines. Also, “be seen” and by that I do not mean wear the brightest neon colored dress you have, I mean be visible. Attend networking events, happy hours with the team, weekend picnics, anything that you are not required to do. These are almost always the time the relationships you had previously created will now be nourished and allows for people to see the “people” side of you, a side of the “real” you.

So, with that, a general rule of thumb for clothing would be to keep it generally, clean. Wash your hair, comb it, style it how you please but it should look like you put some effort in it and have clean clothes and clothes you can feel comfortable in. Some companies may demand more, i.e., heels lower than 1/2 inch etc., but again depending on your field one dress code does not fit ALL! Focus more on your relationships…it will go far….today….tomorrow….1 year from now!


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Don’t put this off…

I’m on the train right now  but came across an article on LifeHacker that you shouldn’t put on the back burner. My fav :

Opportunities That Will Pass: Have you ever put off a task that caused you to miss an opportunity? Never put off tasks that are time-sensitive or may expire. Many opportunities that come along have a limited shelf life. If you don’t act on them, they might be gone when you return to them.

Read it all here:

Sorry for the missing detail I’ll add a follow-up post soon! Enjoy!

Good ol’ personal interaction

So, like 99% of my posts, I am writing this spontaneously. A thought just comes up to mind for my blog and I write it here.

Today at my company, one of our co-workers is heading back home. He has worked with us for the span of a few months and in that time we have all worked well as a team and learned and benefited from each other tremendously. I work on a team where we enjoy each others company and try to have fun with random happy hours or bubble tea runs. So I’m here to emphasize the importance (and awesomeness of relationships!)

10yearsagoHere’s the thing though, we like to do this in person. You know, actually create bonds how it was done pre-high tech era. It seems like these things have been forgotten. The phone calling, the talking in person, the communicating without a screen in front of your face. This seems old-fashioned almost. How many times have you called someone and there is no answer, yet they immediately text you back, “what’s up?” and no, it’s not because they are always in a meeting. Most people now prefer text messages and emails over real in-person meetings and phone calls.

For the sake of length, I guess I’m here to remind you to continue to cultivate real relationships. The meaningful, time-investing, honest relationships. For one, they make you and the other person feel great, they remind you who really is there for you and not your title or “where you worked before”….it’s important to have friends, mentors, people who really care about you in your life. Recognize those people and don’t push them off to the side because you’re “too busy”. The moment things come down to the wire these are the people who will be standing there with you. Think of them as your little army. Treat them well not through obligation but through love and appreciation.

Happy Friday!


Article Share: “How I Hire: Focus on Personality”

I read this article when it was first published in September of 2013. It’s from Richard Branson (Founder of Virgin Group). I have read this article a good handful of times. He points out the importance of one’s personality and I agree with some of the points he makes.

Namely, ” Most skills can be learned, but it is difficult to train people on their personality. If you can find people who are fun, friendly, caring and love helping others, you are on to a winner.”  This has so much truth to it and I have seen it myself. I have been in an environment where someone may not posses all the skill but is quick and eager to learn. That same eagerness often leads to hard dedication to help you and your team thrive. no-personality2

It’s a very short read, but let’s continue to dig into this article..oh here’s another right at the end of the article, “…’It’s better to have a hole in your team than an asshole in your team!'”

Excuse the language (it’s in the article–you can see for yourself in the citation below!) but there is so much truth to it. Sure we may be overworked and tired and need help and someone with the skills to help us keep on track with deliverables but imagine having a person with the “right” skills but the wrong personality. That’s not a winning combo. This person could likely meet defined tasks but not likely willing to unwind with the team or go above and beyond requirements of the job description. Better to find someone who will work well with your team and company culture than deal with headaches later on.

Those starting your career, do not underestimate your personality! It is what sets you apart and it is part of the flavor you contribute to your team.  This is a shorter post than many others, but this article does most of the talking for me. Momma was right, just be yourself! Be confident (it’s true, it does show!) and be yourself and let your co-workers appreciate you for who you are.


Read the full article here:

Newest read on women & career

Hi All,This has been a very long break from you. Much longer than I ever could have imagined. But, I’m back and with a newly recommended read. I’m the type to read at least half way before knowing whether I’d recommend the book (or not). Here’s my newest one.

“Dare: Straight Talk on Confidence, Courage, and Career for WOMEN IN CHARGE” by Becky Blalock
ISBN: 978-1-118-56264-2

Let me begin with one simple fact, I much prefer this book over “Lean In”. It offers real practical advice that can be applied to either gender and also a goal at the end of each chapter and (as always–personally handpicked!)

“As your career progresses, you can’t rest on your accomplishments. You have to constantly asses what’s needed to do the job and to what degree you’re satisfying those requirements.” (29)

“Build a great personal brand, and success will follow. Simply put, your personal brand is the way you present yourself…People make assumptions about you and even decide whether to do business with you before ever meeting you, on the basis of your personal brand.” (43)

“Initiative is action. Don’t sit and wait for someone to tell you what needs to be done to overdeliver in your position.” (48)

“There are three pillars to underlying confidence: attitude, knowledge, and experience.” (75)

Blalock has plenty more on her website:!quotes–inspiration/c14iz but above are some of my favorites. I have tons more but shared what I thought would encourage you most to pick up this read.

This book has enabled me to think of myself and my career growth strategy through the inspiring words Blalock chooses, through the exercises at the end of each chapter, and by the real insight from women in leadership positions. Regardless of where you are in your career, I’d encourage this read. I’m very early in mine but am placing this gem up in my top 10 books.

Have you read this book or are planning on reading it? Do you search for career and growth books? Let me know in the comments 🙂


Good-Bye Facebook?

Graph search is in full swing and let me tell you, I don’t like it. Something about having a detailed, consolidated search of everything I’ve ever done (and things I don’t remember about) on a simple search is just too freaky for me.

There is a reason I enabled “Reviews” of tags before they posted on my Facebook, but now even that won’t save me. No, I don’t have anything to hide but just the thought that an ex or a  complete stranger can peer into my life and get a clear picture of my past “likes” “photos I’ve commented on” or “photos I’m tagged on” just creeps me out.

So, my page is gone!

ImageIt would take much too much time to delete any content from showing up on Graph Search. The only other way for me to get back onto Facebook is by creating a new name but I’ve been busy and haven’t gotten around to it. For now, I’m on Instagram and am happy.

Those who really care about me have my phone number or follow me on Instagram. Plus, Facebook was becoming overrated anyway, don’t you think? Maybe now we can appreciate the flowers and beauty around us rather than uploading “Check-ins” and telling the world about that guy who just cut you off on the highway. 🙂 Freedom at last, thanks Facebook! The invasion of privacy and ease of having people track my things has enabled me to break up with you for good.

Break-ups can be healthy!


Obama’s 2009 Commencement Speech at Arizona State

My part time work consists of working with and viewing mobile apps. One app was about quotes. I really liked the quote, taken from President Obama’s 2009 Commencement Speech, the issue was that the app misquoted him…so I Googled the speech script, and read it…and with you I share what I think were the best quotes.

My favorite quotes…!

“I come to embrace the notion that I haven’t done enough in my life; I heartily concur; I come to affirm that one’s title, even a title like President of the United States, says very little about how well one’s life has been led — that no matter how much you’ve done, or how successful you’ve been, there’s always more to do, always more to learn, and always more to achieve.”RisetotheChallenge

“We too often let the external, the material things, serve as indicators that we’re doing well, even though something inside us tells us that we’re not doing our best; that we’re avoiding that which is hard, but also necessary; that we’re shrinking from, rather than rising to, the challenges of the age.”

“And let me be clear, when I say “young,” I’m not just referring to the date of your birth certificate. I’m talking about an approach to life — a quality of mind and quality of heart; a willingness to follow your passions, regardless of whether they lead to fortune and fame; a willingness to question conventional wisdom and rethink old dogmas; a lack of regard for all the traditional markers of status and prestige — and a commitment instead to doing what’s meaningful to you, what helps others, what makes a difference in this world.”


“That’s a great motto for all of us — find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Rise to their needs.”

“… that’s what building a body of work is all about — it’s about the daily labor, the many individual acts, the choices large and small that add up over time, over a lifetime, to a lasting legacy. That’s what you want on your tombstone. It’s about not being satisfied with the latest achievement, the latest gold star — because the one thing I know about a body of work is that it’s never finished. It’s cumulative; it deepens and expands with each day that you give your best, each day that you give back and contribute to the life of your community and your nation. You may have setbacks, and you may have failures, but you’re not done — you’re not even getting started, not by a long shot.”

Share your thoughts…did you like them? I think there are a lot of great takeaways from the Speech. 🙂 

You can check out the full script for yourself here…